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Why are you so busy?

I get it. You’re busy. 

Does being busy get all your work done?

Does it solve your problems?

Or does it make you anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, inadequate, sad, frustrated, angry, lonely?

When you wake up tomorrow is it back to being busy before you’ve gotten out of bed, mind whirling, all the things that ‘have’ to be done already closing in on you?


Lets take a look at WHY you are busy, to understand the busy traps we fall into. 

Busy is culture – We are conditioned into it. Working hard is the best thing to do. A lot of work cultures worship busyness, praise working long hours for the cause. We slip into this thinking because it’s the culture, its expected. We ‘feel’ judged if we are not being as busy as everyone else. When everyone was present in the office back pre Covid days, were the people who left early judged for leaving?

Busy is easier – At least when you’re busier you don’t need to plan, you don’t need to worry too much about strategy – just stay busy and ensure things are getting done. Except your role may need you to worry about strategy, get busy planning instead of being busy doing.

Busy is avoidance – Being busy means we don’t have time to deal with those issues and emotions that we are avoiding. . We can hide behind being busy and feel good about it because being busy means we have value.

Busy is an addiction – We feel better busy. We feel it’s the right thing to be. We don’t know how not to be busy, to the point that we can’t relax because we won’t give ourselves permission not to be busy. Being busy has become a habit.

Busy is a success strategy – If you are busy you will get promoted, your business will succeed. No. That’s busyness for the sake of busyness. Being a ‘busy fool’ is of no benefit to you.

Busy is a coping mechanism   Busy has become our default operating mode. It may not serve us but we feel more comfortable making sure we are busy. Its our erroneous stress management, that unfortunately adds to the stress. If we can get all the work done then we won’t be under stress, except there is always more work.

So which of these resonate with you the most?

Do all of them in some way paint a picture of where you are?



How do you begin to manage busyness?

These are a great place to start

  1. Become aware of the ‘culture of busyness’. Challenge whether what you are doing is necessary or is just to satisfy the culture.
  2. Prioritise.
  3. Take short breaks – to re-evaluate.
  4. Examine how you identify yourself – is it with your job, as your job title? How can you have time for family if you’re identity and priority are work.
  5. Set parameters around your workday. Be clear – stop letting it eat into family time. What matters most?
  6. Prioritise.
  7. Let some things go. You cannot get everything done and you never will.
  8. Say “no”. And if you can’t say ‘no’ say ‘let me think about it’. Set your boundaries.
  9. Prioritise (I’m a big believer in good prioritisation!)
  10. Schedule downtime. When you need it – build it into your schedule to make it happen.
  11. Build time management skills. Create a life that doesn’t revolve around your work. (That’s prioritisation again!)
  12. Change your perspective on busyness. Understand what you are trying to achieve and why you are trying to achieve it. This will allow you to understand your busyness, where it serves you, and more importantly where it doesn’t.
  13. Intentionally design your life.
  14. Start Small – when you are so busy its hard to make changes because you see it as adding to your busyness. Start small. Schedule a little downtime. Ask yourself what’s important. 
  15. Realise that slowing down is important, because you cannot live the life you want to live, and have the impact that you want to have with your family, creativity, and work if you are overwhelmed, overscheduled, and overbusy.


To avoid busy leading to issues, you need to take responsibility for your busyness.

You need to own it and not just wear it. 

Once you own it you can start working on it. You can start making changes. You can start to take back control.

Life is supposed to be something we make happen, and not something that happens to us.

Time to get busy living

On Key

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